Dating a girl with bad teeth
Part of my problem is I haven’t been in a relationship in many years.
So I signed up for some online dating, but it’s been tough.
Anyone who tells you differently is selling something. It is *the* way to get us to lie down in Procrustes’s magic bed of our own free will. You get to reject people (and they get to reject you) as dating partners for any reason at any time. Which also means people get to make snap judgments about you and decide, “and there is no way you can “deserve” attention or affection from a specific person. I’m asthmatic, and even the residue/smell on clothes triggers my wheezing. Your profile lists 10,000 supercool books, bands, and movies and all of it was made by white men? You live in a place not reachable by public transit? But 1,000s of guys are looking at my profile and thinking, “” to call me names and remind me that I shouldn’t get to be picky or “judgmental” about men when I am such a fatty-fat-fatty (manatee, cow, pig, whale, she-beast, etc.) They feel “tricked” into “wasting time” looking at my profile.
That’s why I advocate for asking people out sooner rather than later and without a sense of entitlement or getting too invested. We are works in progress, so maybe a year from now you’ll be an ex-smoker and I totally missed my shot with a great guy. (Update as of 10/2012: Currently dating a considerate smoker who never smokes around me. ) Want to tell me about how you love Ron Paul or your favorite book is ? What they don’t understand…I mean, one of the many, many, MANY things they don’t understand…is that I think that they get to be picky, and that I also get to be picky.
I hate myself for letting it get like this, because now I feel as if I’m not able to get a date.
Years of neglect while playing video games and being lazy have screwed me up.
The readers and commenters contribute so much to the community here.
I didn’t know back when I started this thing that I was, you know, starting A Thing, with Jedi Hugs and FEELINGSBOMBS and African Violets.
Once I found your blog I took a couple weeks to read through your old questions, some of them were very relevant to my issues.https://captainawkward.com/2011/08/22/guest-post-how-do-i-stop-letting-my-terrible-self-esteem-sabotage-my-relationships-reader-question-99/ (comment: “Sure, they notice if you are sloppy, or not practicing basic hygiene and grooming…”)https://captainawkward.com/2011/06/28/reader-question-67-my-wonderful-boyfriend-has-horrible-hygiene-and-a-disgusting-house-how-do-i-talk-to-him-about-it/ (one comment stuck out: “Poor dental hygiene to me is a total, permanent deal-breaker.”)About me: I’m a hetero male, nearing 40 years old.
Mentally and socially I’m a mess, but I’d go way over 500 words if I tried to describe it all. I’m tall, not overweight, somewhat fit but not too obsessed about it, full head of hair (graying but that’s OK), and…horrible teeth.